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So true. So true.

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Every relationship is a unique thing, never to be duplicated. It's natural to feel the loss of that, even when you have something else in your life. We can move on, but we don't ever really replace the people the people we've loved.

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Wonderful reply 💗

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Good advice! Allowing ourselves to feel is part of self care.

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I feel for you Jan, I really do. And I’m sorry you are going through this. Regret is a very heavy weight to carry in your heart, and it’s painful. As Allison wrote, Allow yourself to feel, then you’ll know. I wish you the very best. 🌷

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"Something from forty years ago can still send us into the ditch for hours."

Honestly, I don't know how you do it AM but someone from forty years ago has recently sent me into the ditch for almost two weeks now. I have been grieving hard.

Jan, there is no other way but to do it what AM says. Allow yourself to grieve. You must have based your decisions on something that only you know is right for you.

Allison. being married three times doesn't make you the person NOT to ask. It makes you someone I would run to to ask.

Good luck, Jan, Follow your heart.

Thank you, AM. I'm trying right now to figure out how to address my own situation. This, as always, helps.

JB

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Hi JB. I’ve missed your comments and wondered what was going on with you

I’m sorry you’ve been through some hard days. Hopefully you’re moving through it now. Know I’m cheering for you 🌸

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I tried to use FB messenger to talk to you, Gay. I can find your page but no messenger. Thank you. You're always out there rooting for all of us.

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Will check it out

Hmm not sure why??

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Thanks for your words. Many things have changed in the last weeks and yes, I allowed myself to grieve, talked a lot about it with two close friends. I‘m on track now so to say. Feels good to read all these encouraging words, thoughts and wishes here … Take care, Jan

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"Every relationship has already received it's terminal diagnosis". I keep being drawn to this statement. It's sad but true...

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Love your answer, Allison. So true & kind & wise.

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Hi Allison you always seem to write an answer that I need to know, thank you 😊

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I may have mentioned it before but, I was 15 when my mum died and kept my grief inside. Several years later when I was well into my 20s, it all came out in a very dramatic way. I can’t remember what triggered the release but, I cried and cried for hours. Don’t consciously suppress one of those waves when it comes.

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Great advice, Allison. Basically, feel down if you’re down - let it out. But get rid of that feeling as fast as you possibly can, and find something positive to focus on instead.

We all have regrets. But time only moves in one direction. There’s no going back.

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Allison would kindly repost the membership offer to gift a friend to your substack

Thank you

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