Allison, yes, I reflect on my mistakes, my tobacco roads, paths not taken, regularly ruminating., why did I do that. I try not to repeat mistakes, yet they come to me with different faces, different intentions and usually with lessons to teach me about being human. Spirituality is a necessity for me, not an choice to opt out of.
Currently, I’m looking for work in the recovery field as a peer recovery coach ...my dreams of providing creative ways to recover and safe places to grow is unchanged. I wish, somedays , I had that sag spirit to sell all my things and hit the road to be a traveler , but I’m more practical than that. So, I’m going to keep making my way here.
We now have open mic for those in recovery!
I really love that you do this and communicate . I m am humbly honored !
One day at a time sis. I am glad to share all the burdens of this world with you. I thought I was the only person carrying all the world's burdens and guilt. In NA, one of the most maddening things they would say in my early recovery was "you're in the right place, keep coming back". You are so loved by so many. I'll bet everyone in their mind is giving you a humungous healing, knowing hug. Love you❤️
Of course Sinatra’s song “I Did It My Way” had to float into my mind after I listened to this. The truth is that we don’t have the option of rewinding the tape so there is little point in regret really. We hopefully learn from a lot of our experiences and decisions but those lessons are not always that obvious unfortunately.
Thanks again for your thoughts Allison and thanks for recording them because I love listening to you. Px❤️
Dear Allison, it seems the key element of your regret is not "knowing" what you don't know. Buddha would say to you: "Perhaps! But you are on the right path to knowing." I often struggle with regret for things I could have done better in my life. But it doesn't change the past. It only makes gives me "high anxiety" which effects my view of the world around me, and more importantly, my health.
The key to your regret is that you "exam your conscience," which is actually a good thing. This will lead you to "right thought" and "right deed" in your present and future decisions. Imagine how wonderful it is to actually have a conscience. There are those among us who, even if they tried to exam their conscience, find out they don't even have one.
A methodology I use to try to make better decisions is called Felicific Calculus. It is a quasi-mathematical technique ethical theorists use for determining how to make good decisions based on the amount of happiness, pleasure, or utility resulting from the decision. On a sheet of paper, write down every negative thing in one column that may occur from your decision. On the other column write down every positive thing that may occur. Study the columns. Add up negatives and positives. Make a decison based on the result. But don't forget, regardless of the column totals that you must also factor in common sense, feelings and instinct. I find my decision-making almost always puts me on a "middle path" to a happier result.
On the issue of "knowing," one of my poems seems to help me find the "middle path" that may lead me to final "truth" and perhaps even Nirvana.
"If you only "know,"
what you believe you know.
How will you ever really know,
what you don't know?"
And please always remember this. God designed us as "perfectly" imperfect Beings. If we were perfect we wouldn't need Him. Be healthy, happy, successful, blessed and safe always as a child of God and "star dust" in His Cosmos. - MRVERITAS.SUBSTACK.COM
For many years I was a teacher in an intensive support program for little ones with language based learning disabilities. By the time my kids got into the program, most of them had already learned that they couldn’t do what the others could do and so wouldn’t try to do much at all. Early on I learned that my most important job was to create a safe environment where they could try things and make mistakes and be okay. They eventually came to know that the only way to learn anything was to make mistakes along the way. That’s when they truly bloomed. As for me, I am still (slowly) learning how to create that safe, gentle, accepting space for myself. That’s much harder to do but it seems that it’s the only way!
They would make beautiful blank cards. I'm a letter writer, or when I give a gift I usually have a beautiful card I write the person a note, poem, etc. That would be gorgeous on rice paper. Many artists make cards out of their wall art.
Hey Allison, this was one of the best readings! You are an overcomer! 😉 We slay super demons as much as we can when we can! Do not let them robb you of your Joy! Keep them at bay 😉
Dear Allison…it’s as if you have read my own thoughts. I’ve had the same so recently. Oh if only I/we could have gotten to this point sooner. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I look forward to each posting. Blessings to you! 💗
All my best decisions came directly after all my worst decisions. Direct experience is the best teacher, although learning from other peoples mistakes can be useful as well. I also favor positive encouragement over criticism. I too, feel that it would have been handier to have this information earlier in life... I feel that kindness and compassion lead to joy, and joy is where I want to be. Spend your day in light.
Could I love you, todays post anymore than I did already
My goodness
I have lived every word in this post
I breathed a little easier after reading your post
If you can find your way through, so can I
Thank you Allison
You make a difference & I’m grateful
🌸🌺
I hear you, Gay.
Allison, yes, I reflect on my mistakes, my tobacco roads, paths not taken, regularly ruminating., why did I do that. I try not to repeat mistakes, yet they come to me with different faces, different intentions and usually with lessons to teach me about being human. Spirituality is a necessity for me, not an choice to opt out of.
Currently, I’m looking for work in the recovery field as a peer recovery coach ...my dreams of providing creative ways to recover and safe places to grow is unchanged. I wish, somedays , I had that sag spirit to sell all my things and hit the road to be a traveler , but I’m more practical than that. So, I’m going to keep making my way here.
We now have open mic for those in recovery!
I really love that you do this and communicate . I m am humbly honored !
One day at a time sis. I am glad to share all the burdens of this world with you. I thought I was the only person carrying all the world's burdens and guilt. In NA, one of the most maddening things they would say in my early recovery was "you're in the right place, keep coming back". You are so loved by so many. I'll bet everyone in their mind is giving you a humungous healing, knowing hug. Love you❤️
So much to think about and learn in your words here. Thank you!
Of course Sinatra’s song “I Did It My Way” had to float into my mind after I listened to this. The truth is that we don’t have the option of rewinding the tape so there is little point in regret really. We hopefully learn from a lot of our experiences and decisions but those lessons are not always that obvious unfortunately.
Thanks again for your thoughts Allison and thanks for recording them because I love listening to you. Px❤️
Dear Allison, it seems the key element of your regret is not "knowing" what you don't know. Buddha would say to you: "Perhaps! But you are on the right path to knowing." I often struggle with regret for things I could have done better in my life. But it doesn't change the past. It only makes gives me "high anxiety" which effects my view of the world around me, and more importantly, my health.
The key to your regret is that you "exam your conscience," which is actually a good thing. This will lead you to "right thought" and "right deed" in your present and future decisions. Imagine how wonderful it is to actually have a conscience. There are those among us who, even if they tried to exam their conscience, find out they don't even have one.
A methodology I use to try to make better decisions is called Felicific Calculus. It is a quasi-mathematical technique ethical theorists use for determining how to make good decisions based on the amount of happiness, pleasure, or utility resulting from the decision. On a sheet of paper, write down every negative thing in one column that may occur from your decision. On the other column write down every positive thing that may occur. Study the columns. Add up negatives and positives. Make a decison based on the result. But don't forget, regardless of the column totals that you must also factor in common sense, feelings and instinct. I find my decision-making almost always puts me on a "middle path" to a happier result.
On the issue of "knowing," one of my poems seems to help me find the "middle path" that may lead me to final "truth" and perhaps even Nirvana.
"If you only "know,"
what you believe you know.
How will you ever really know,
what you don't know?"
And please always remember this. God designed us as "perfectly" imperfect Beings. If we were perfect we wouldn't need Him. Be healthy, happy, successful, blessed and safe always as a child of God and "star dust" in His Cosmos. - MRVERITAS.SUBSTACK.COM
For many years I was a teacher in an intensive support program for little ones with language based learning disabilities. By the time my kids got into the program, most of them had already learned that they couldn’t do what the others could do and so wouldn’t try to do much at all. Early on I learned that my most important job was to create a safe environment where they could try things and make mistakes and be okay. They eventually came to know that the only way to learn anything was to make mistakes along the way. That’s when they truly bloomed. As for me, I am still (slowly) learning how to create that safe, gentle, accepting space for myself. That’s much harder to do but it seems that it’s the only way!
We've all made mistakes I know I've made more than my share but Allison you have overcome so much give yourself a break
♥
They would make beautiful blank cards. I'm a letter writer, or when I give a gift I usually have a beautiful card I write the person a note, poem, etc. That would be gorgeous on rice paper. Many artists make cards out of their wall art.
"...The agony it creates in our minds, bodies and spirits,,," and the gnawing you describe.
Ah, you are in my head, again, AM. Regret is lording over this time in my life.
I have nothing to add but "Thank you." Really, could we love you anymore than we already do?
Yes, we can.
Working on my Mantra now.
And yes, please, to more artwork!
ox JB
Thank you, Allison. So wisely & beautifully put. ♥️🌻
These are teaching moments. In the audio, deliver them in the same normal, thoughtful manner as you do in your live streams. Much love.
Hey Allison, this was one of the best readings! You are an overcomer! 😉 We slay super demons as much as we can when we can! Do not let them robb you of your Joy! Keep them at bay 😉
Each one of these impactful posts could be a chapter in the Book of Life. I try to remind myself that regret is the price of fear.
Dear Allison…it’s as if you have read my own thoughts. I’ve had the same so recently. Oh if only I/we could have gotten to this point sooner. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I look forward to each posting. Blessings to you! 💗
All my best decisions came directly after all my worst decisions. Direct experience is the best teacher, although learning from other peoples mistakes can be useful as well. I also favor positive encouragement over criticism. I too, feel that it would have been handier to have this information earlier in life... I feel that kindness and compassion lead to joy, and joy is where I want to be. Spend your day in light.