The most moving words I've read today. You are a beautiful reflection of all the love your mama gave. Wishing you and John Henry a magical Mother's Day.
"If I can achieve one thing on Mother’s Day, it will be that I remind someone to see their mother as a person first. Try to see her as someone who had a life before you came along, who has heartaches, disappointments, and cares, big and small, you’ll never know about."
...I attempted a Google if it was poor etiquette or not to do this and I didn't find an answer....
Hi, Allison. I'm in Nashville and also a autism mom of a higher supports needs loved one. We have at least one mutual friend. My daughter's twice the age of John Henry. Last night, I wrote a post about how people tend to see my daughter and I as a combined unit and not as two adults with separate lives. While such people are casual friends and acquaintances, it's those who really know me know that I am so much more—like you—than my daughter's autism. Yes, it's all consuming in this post school period. But, like you, I've had a level of privilege to carve out time for separate pursuits and it's been fundamental to my...mental health.
So, forgive me if this is rude to share my own post. It's my attempt to clink glasses and say: I know. I know. It's so fundamental to create ways that we honor ourselves beyond the task, duty, and honor of parenting:
Wow life has its challenges and we certainly don’t get to pick the mothers or the children we get. I often wonder what my life would have been like if I had been raised by a more evolved person who was less reactive, self-involved and unhappy. I know you’ve done a lot of work in this department. I am grateful that age has granted me equanimity and much more maturity than my mother ever attained…and she died at 99 last year. If you haven’t seen Heather Cox Richardson’s post today, I loved that too. Thanks for doing your deep dives into our emotions. Hoping you have a wonderful day.
Your writing is similar to me when someone plays a note or sings a phrase that reaches deep within and connects with clear, meaningful feeling. Oh, my. Ponder. Then give thanks and best wishes!
This is so lovely, Allison. Thank you for sharing about your mom. What a sweet person and I can feel that. I've been writing a memoir about my own mother and through that writing, which has been quite the emotional roller coaster, I have gotten more in touch with her as a person outside of being my mother. It's a gift to see that. Happy Mother's Day to you!
Is anyone's child, or relationship with their child, what they imagined it would be? Isn't that part of the wonder of having a child, watching them grow and become things you never imagined?
thanks for being a good momma Allison and woman and human....get some extra treats ..meow. SJOCR
Well...yeah, exactly what Julesy just said above. That covers it all. Meow miau.
awe thanks Craig hola meow miau
Happy Mother's Day, Allison.
Happy Mother's Day, Allison! You and your sister were blessed to have your Mom and she certainly did a great job with you both!
❤️
Happy Mother's Day!
You are my hero💪🙏❤️
The most moving words I've read today. You are a beautiful reflection of all the love your mama gave. Wishing you and John Henry a magical Mother's Day.
That was a beautiful tribute to your momma, our moms, our other moms, and to motherhood. Happy Mothers’ Day to you!
Happy Mother's Day to your Mama and You, AM! ox JB
"If I can achieve one thing on Mother’s Day, it will be that I remind someone to see their mother as a person first. Try to see her as someone who had a life before you came along, who has heartaches, disappointments, and cares, big and small, you’ll never know about."
...I attempted a Google if it was poor etiquette or not to do this and I didn't find an answer....
Hi, Allison. I'm in Nashville and also a autism mom of a higher supports needs loved one. We have at least one mutual friend. My daughter's twice the age of John Henry. Last night, I wrote a post about how people tend to see my daughter and I as a combined unit and not as two adults with separate lives. While such people are casual friends and acquaintances, it's those who really know me know that I am so much more—like you—than my daughter's autism. Yes, it's all consuming in this post school period. But, like you, I've had a level of privilege to carve out time for separate pursuits and it's been fundamental to my...mental health.
So, forgive me if this is rude to share my own post. It's my attempt to clink glasses and say: I know. I know. It's so fundamental to create ways that we honor ourselves beyond the task, duty, and honor of parenting:
https://leisahammett.substack.com/p/life-lessons-in-dying-flowers
And, PS: Sometimes, in the early pre-dawn hours, my mother's gently energy tiptoes to my bedside. I always know it's her. She died 17 years ago.
Wow life has its challenges and we certainly don’t get to pick the mothers or the children we get. I often wonder what my life would have been like if I had been raised by a more evolved person who was less reactive, self-involved and unhappy. I know you’ve done a lot of work in this department. I am grateful that age has granted me equanimity and much more maturity than my mother ever attained…and she died at 99 last year. If you haven’t seen Heather Cox Richardson’s post today, I loved that too. Thanks for doing your deep dives into our emotions. Hoping you have a wonderful day.
I can’t bring them back again
Those moments I hold fast in memory
Dear ones dancing in my dreams
Still reaching out to me
When Spring has come and gone again
And brilliant Summer pales
And Fall sets sail in frosty winds
Only love prevails
Your writing is similar to me when someone plays a note or sings a phrase that reaches deep within and connects with clear, meaningful feeling. Oh, my. Ponder. Then give thanks and best wishes!
This is so lovely, Allison. Thank you for sharing about your mom. What a sweet person and I can feel that. I've been writing a memoir about my own mother and through that writing, which has been quite the emotional roller coaster, I have gotten more in touch with her as a person outside of being my mother. It's a gift to see that. Happy Mother's Day to you!
Is anyone's child, or relationship with their child, what they imagined it would be? Isn't that part of the wonder of having a child, watching them grow and become things you never imagined?
Allison: Happy Mother's Day. Love you a bunch