Questions + Answers

From Alan P.

You asked for questions, and although I rarely communicate with performers because of “fanboy” concerns, I’ve always wondered what you think of music cruises.  I think you’ve been on Sixthman’s “Cayamo” at least twice, once with H. and I will never forget your response to the “two sinks” comment by a fellow married performer on the Stardust stage—(how good is your memory?).  Emmylou Harris was quoted as saying that it’s a cross between a festival and a prison gig—would you agree?

Alan P.

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Dear Alan,

I have never played a prison gig. I wonder if Emmylou really has? If I had to bet, I’d say yes, so she would know. However, I also know that people say things when they’re under duress that may not be completely reflective of how they honestly feel. And when a quote follows you around (which is something most people never have to deal with), it can start to feel like an unwelcome ghost. I know Emmylou wouldn’t want one single person on that cruise ship to which she was referring to feel like they made her feel like she was in prison, even if she really did feel that way. I don’t remember what I said about two sinks, and if was a smart ass comment (probably was since that’s my way) I’m probably sorry too. So there’s that.

I have played several music cruises and have never felt any more particularly trapped than I have on the cruises I’ve been on that weren’t gigs. To me, music cruises feel like a (several days long) festival. I like festivals. I get to see my musician friends. I get to hear music I sometimes like. So, I don’t have a problem with them. I like them and hope I get to go on more of them. But I will say that being noticed, considered, stared at, and quite possibly approached at breakfast or in an elevator is not always enjoyable. Imagine getting in a small box full of people and knowing everyone of them knows who you are, who you’re married to, who you were married to before and why you’re not with them anymore, how old your children are, sometimes the threads of your most interior tapestry because you put them in a song, and they’re staring at the back of your head, your freckles, possibly your feet, and definitely your ass. They will probably whisper among themselves after you exit.

When an artist knows how to protect their vulnerability in an appropriate way, it becomes a superpower. But before they do, it can feel like a liability in almost any situation. So I think the answer to this question in a larger sense is, music cruises are great if you know how to take care of yourself.

Maybe life is one big music cruise.

Have a fantastic weekend.

Peace. Love.

Allison

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